The core essence of consensual dominance lies in the "hot, complicated space between what someone wants to do on their own and what they want to do for you." It’s about wielding interpersonal power, influencing another person’s thoughts and actions, and the intimate power that comes from a partner wanting and needing to do things for you that they wouldn’t otherwise do without your influence. It involves establishing power and control within a relationship, creating a dynamic that revolves around influence and the "because I said so" or "do it for me" element. However, this power must be based on mutual desire and is not about absolute control but instead about a carefully cultivated shared dynamic. – notebooklm