• principle on relating to people that grief
  • Do not inform your empathy using societies norms
  • Have the courage to express/tell the person your authentic empathy when it arises.
  • Relate by feeling instead of meeting learned expectations
  • Allow the present moment to inform your way to relate
  • Don't feel obligated to make the other feel comfortable to talk about it

Helping Other with Grief (Facilitated by David Kessler)

• Healing is when the event/tragedy no longer has control over us
• No felling is final (There is life after loss)
• Grief is not a problem to be solved (not all grief has trauma but ALL trauma has grief)
• What we run from pursues us
• What we face transforms us

A.C.E = Adverse Childhood Experiences

• All old wounds & traumas get brought up with grief especiall A.C.E.
• Our Societies are grief illiterate (We're not being giving the tools to come to term with grief)
• Grief is an organic process that does not operate on a timeline
  1. Grief needs to be witnessed
  2. Feelings need to be expressed (use your voice)
  3. Release the burden of guilt (We'd rather feel guilty than helpless)
  4. The need to be free from old wounds is necessary to heal & proccess grief
  5. Integrate the pain and the love
  6. Find meaning in the grief/pain (It's about what we do AFTEr tragedy)

Le Needs of Grieving

Links

• Example on Psychological first aid
• I thought i was prepared for grief then i lost my dad
• https://grief.com/
• Grief Will Make You Stronger