Notes
Information: about facts, data...
Personal: about feelings, values...
Interpersonal: about our relationship...
Exercise
❓Introduce yourself without mentioning your job 🔍Use your curiosity to go deeper
- Exercise
👂🏼 Parrot & Paraphrase
- Person A tells a brief story: "a time I felt I really belonged in a group..."
- Person B listens and reflects back the story, first as a "Parrot" (check I heard you), then as "Paraphrase" (restate in my own words to check I understand what's important to you)
- Person A can clarify or add more unti they feel understood
- Then switch A & B
🧭 5 mins per person, we'll send a message when it's time to switch
- Exercise
❓What's going on for you right now? (Mentally, physically, emotionally, etc.)
🔍 Try giving voice to some of your different parts using the following sentence stems ""A part of me is feeling/thinking..."" ""I notice one voice saying..."" ""A part of me wants to...""
(Remember your curiosity and paraphrasing)
🧭 5 mins per person, we'll send a message when it's time to switch"
- Exercise
📝 Write some reflections in your own journal:
🔍 How did it feel today to be in the different groups? What did you notice about the different relational practices? What did you notice about yourself?
I was in generall a really nice experience. I feel enriched and enlivened. I feel i connected with new people. Incrediable that this is possible in such a short time. The practices had different purposes. We warmed up with an playful introduction then with a bit more bidirectional relation be paraphrasing and ended with a interpersonal exercise.
ifs exercise they say has the possibility to learn system-work or multiple angles work in a community
It's one year from today, you're in the best possible community/network/group.
- What does it look like?
I find others to have breakfast with. I general don't eat alone. I regularly play games with others. Most of the time i don't sleep alone. I have a place to be alone. I find myself regularly to be helpful to others. I have interpersonal and intellectual conversations to finetune my unterstandings or allow processing things. Cook together.
What's blocking you from having the community that you want?
not making it an direct aim and kind of forgetting and diffusing that vision. unclear if i can leave me single setup now. how to justify it
Troika Consulting
Step 1: client shares their challenge + consultants ask clarifying questions (4 min)
Step 2: consultants discuss while client has their camera+mic off (6 min)
Step 3: closing reflection from client & prep for next round (2 min)
1' to switch clients
Write some reflections in your journal about your experience today
🔍 How did it feel today to be Client and Consultant?
To see others riff on your blocks and ideas felt like others caring for you and them having the freedom to explore knowing i will not intercept really helps the process. It allows for an allocentric view into your blocks because its coming from outside.
🔍 What was made possible in today's relational practices?
Creating a start of communicty in caffees. Starting local first.
2023-10-10
What are you bringing with you today? How are your different parts?
CASE CLINIC:
✊Step 0, 3': say hi & choose a facilitator
☝️ Step 1, 10’: Challenge introduction (by case giver)
Current situation: What key challenge or question are you up against?
Stakeholders: How might others view this situation?
Intention: What future are you trying to create?
Learning threshold: What do you need to let go of?
Help: Where do you need input or help?
Coaches listen & ask clarifying questions (don’t give advice!)
✌️ Step 2, 2’: Stillness (quiet reflection)
🖕 Step 3, 10’ Mirroring - coaches reflect back what came up for them (e.g images, metaphors, feelings). Still not giving advice! Then, case giver reflects back what happened to them while hearing the coaches reflect.
🖖 Step 4, 15’: Generative Dialogue - sharing observations & new perspectives on the case. (You can give advice now!)
🖐 Step 5, 10’: Round of closing remarks
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For case-givers: What is one small step you can take with ease in the next 2 days that reflects your insights from todays session?
For coaches: What are you learning from having witnessed and supported the case-givers? How does it apply to your life? Is there an action you want to take that reflects that insight?