We are trapped in false-dilemma that don't give us space to consider the third door or alternative.

We run into package-deal fallacies and can responde with pragmatic imagination/looking for a third door/alternative

What is the best of all possible alternatives?

anerkennung ist besser als bestechung

the best is the enemy of the good

if the goal is to justify a particular strategy by claiming that it helps people, a Third Alternative is an enemy argument, a competitor.

Beware when you find yourself arguing that a policy is defensible rather than optimal; or that it has some benefit compared to the null action, rather than the best benefit of any action.

False dilemmas are often presented to justify unethical policies that are, by some vast coincidence, very convenient.

Strategies to look for third doors

To do better, ask yourself straight out: If I saw that there was a superior alternative to my current policy, would I be glad in the depths of my heart, or would I feel a tiny flash of reluctance before I let go? If the answers are “no” and “yes,” beware that you may not have searched for a Third Alternative.

• followers -> you are here | peers -> mentor -> surrogate
  • surrogate
    • contact the surrogate
      • Questions
        • Why did you choose this path in the first place?
        • What challenges where unexptected?
        • In what ways where positively you surprised?
        • What would you do differently today?
        • Would you do it all over again? Why/Why not?
          • You find what they really value
  • mentors
    • apprenticeships
      • your learn skills very quickly because you have context
      • customized feedback
    • more usefull then the knowledge and skill is the energetic shift you experience
      • osmosis
  • peers
    • accountability / support
    • skill trade
      • transmissin through connection/information/etc.
    • introductions to people that you help us
      • this can be acceleratos
  • followers
    • you don't need to be at the surrogate level to have followers
      • the curse of knowledge for surrogate actually can have difficulty to support followers
    • building in public
      • life reporting of whatever is alive for you
      • just start sharing
    • connection
• this is about exsiting opportunities
• books: The Third Door: The Wild Quest to Uncover How the World's Most Successful People Launched Their Careers

Lookup

• the-middle-way
• false-dilemma
• Ascent Mastermind 5: The Third Door
• The Third Alternative
• included middle